Tags: Rape

I am a rape victim and I have lost count of the amount of times that I have admitted it and people have either given me a dirty look or commented on how sorry they are. But, why, yes it’s a very emotional and distressing and awful experience to go through. But it happens, and happens every single day, in every single town in the UK , probably about three an hour and right now someone is experiencing it. However, the reason why we don’t hear much about it, because its become a taboo. People can’t talk about it openly, people don’t know the right knowledge and the facts and the support to help others.

For example did you know men and women can both be raped.  It doesn’t always just happen to one age group. There are rape shelters in almost every town where you can get support. It doesn’t just affect a person’s emotions, but their lives, emotions, believes and most of all fears. It isn’t an experience that happened. It’s a lifestyle, it’s a culture, it’s something people have to fit around their everyday lives.

After reading a glamour magazine article on whether the offenders should be named and shamed or not it had me thinking. What is the difference between a girl who changes her mind at the last minute, a girl who is lying and a person in a marriage who suffers rape.

There is only one difference, the girl who is lying. But, how do you know who is lying, how do  you know whether or not they are telling the truth or just need attention. The truth is you don’t  you can guess but then you may cause offence.

But then dealing with the person in the marriage. How do you know whether this is rape or not. In some cultures, rape doesn’t happen in marriages. As people put a blind eye to it. They believe it’s a man’s right to have sex when and how he feels like it. And it wasn’t long ago it was the same in England, women were expected to lie back and ‘think of England’. But, there is still millions of women around the world suffering from this abuse.

It’s wrong, it’s not a taboo to talk about and I’m sick and tired of people not knowing the facts. Therefore I personally believe everybody should have the right to education on rape and as a society we need to stop ignoring facts and start to help others who have been and are in my past shoes. I think as a society we need to start helping others, with their awful experiences and stop turning a blind eye to anything that doesn’t ‘suit our mood’.

Thank you.    

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